Self-criticism can act as an internal hostile signal. It is like having a self-monitoring system that is constantly looking for weaknesses and condemning the self. If this is repeated over a time, a person can feel persecuted by their own self-attacks. This forms the basis of what we may call internal harassment, the constant, repetitive experience of being (internally) attacked/condemned and feeling shamed.
Paul Gilbert and Chris Irons, Focused Therapies and Compassionate Mind Training for Shame and Self-Attacking
Compassion; Conceptualisations, Research and Use in Psychotherapy
Normally we divide the external world into that which we consider to be good or valuable, bad or worthless, or neither. Most of the time these discriminations are incorrect or have little meaning. For example, our habitual way of categorizing people as friends, enemies, and strangers depending on how they make us feel is both incorrect and a great obstacle to developing impartial love for all living beings. Rather than holding so tightly to our discriminations of the external world, it would be much more beneficial if we learned to discriminate between valuable and worthless states of mind.
—Geshe Kelsang Gyatso - “Eight Steps to Happiness” (via dancingdakini)
Bring happiness to others. If you really want to be selfish, be selfish in the idea of retaining your peace. There is no harm in that selfishness because by that you are not going to harm anybody. Instead, you will bring the same peace to others also.
— Yoga Sutras of Patanjali by Sri Swami Satchidananda (via yeshecholwa)